Were you among those who felt the sky was falling in August? (In one place it actually was!) If so, September is a month for picking up after the summer storms, and preparing for those still to come.
Everyone reacts differently when the cosmic weather gets tense. Some lash out and wonder where the outburst came from. Some hide in their caves and refuse to see anyone. And some reach out to connect with companions on the journey. Astrology says everyone is different. There are no wrong answers, only actions with consequences. Even with our best intentions, sometimes our actions cause pain and suffering for others. (And, be honest, we don’t always act from the best intentions.)
So it’s fitting the Sept. 5 New Moon in Virgo is also Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish new year and opening of a 10-day period of forgiveness and atonement.
Forgiveness and making amends are important acts of healing in relationships. But forgiving others is not always as simple as turning the other cheek. Studies have shown, forgiving honest mistakes is far easier than forgiving harm caused by dishonesty or lack of integrity. Though anger can eat away at you, it can also set up a healthy boundary when trust has been violated.
Justice is a balancing act for which Libra, the sign of the Sept. 22 autumn equinox, is known. This month brings an opportunity for you to reflect on the nature of forgiveness to bring healing and solace. The Harvest Full Moon on Sept. 19 brings emotional release and redemption. Saturn, planet of accountability, makes a harmonious aspect with Pluto, planet of healing transformation, on Sept. 21.
If you seek to atone for your own actions, start with an honest acknowledgement of what you have done, before you ask others’ forgiveness. Even if they can’t forgive you, at least you may be able to forgive yourself. Guilt is a heavy burden. Be accountable for what you have done. Make a plan to make amends. And then you may begin to release yourself from the weight you may not even realize you’ve been carrying.
From the other side of the scales, forgiving others is often easier when they have honestly sought to make amends. But if someone has violated your trust and is not able to be accountable for his or her actions, you may find your only recourse is to accept the reality of their brokenness. Depending on the circumstances, you may need to agree to disagree, to walk away from the relationship, or, in extreme cases, seek protection or legal help. At the end of the day, your internal balance springs from being in “right relationship” with yourself first, for which you are ultimately the judge.
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